Yes I’m behind again this should be day 23 but I cleaned the house and watched films all day instead is that okay?! Haha joking (well I did do that).

Anyway, when I opened my action for happiness app, ready to share to my followers on my social media what kind act they can do today, I came across this. I just looked at it. Captions “not sure how I feel about this one” and here’s why.

As we all know, I’ve been in an abusive relationship. I was in it for over 7 years and now it’s been 2.5 years post separation abuse. I am safe, I am happy and I’ve moved on. However, when we still have a joint property to get rid of it’s hard to forget.

Today is Christmas Eve. He will be sitting in our jointly owned flat, living his best life while he hasn’t paid a penny towards it since 2019 when we were together and shared a bank account.

Obviously I don’t have any contact with this individual, the property is going into repossession. I tried endless amount of times for him to sell or take it on. I spent thousands of pounds in solicitors fees (£25 just for them to fucking photocopy something – says it all) and he still just wanted the control.

Well he hasn’t got that control. That’s why I haven’t heard from him (through my solicitor due to restraining orders) for around a year. He knows he won’t get me to do what he wants. What he wanted me to do is pay for a property he is living in with no gain for me. Does he live in a fantasy world?

So can I forgive him? No. Some would ask can I forgive him once it’s all finalised and gone. No.

Would I thank him? Maybe. Why? Because I’ve made a career from him being an arsehole. But that career building was all me.

So today (or yesterday as I’m late) I will not be forgiving my abuser.